Men’s Grooming question: How much would you change for a woman?

by Tris Hussey on May 21st, 2008

We’ve all done it. You start wooing or dating someone and she says “I really love guys in pink shirts…” and you go get one (or three). The question then becomes, where would you draw the line? What about your appearance? How much are you willing to change for someone?

How much is too much?

I was thinking about this because I read a post on Be Better Guys on the men’s cologne’s that women like:

You buy cologne so that a woman will smell you and be driven wild, such that she will maul you like Timberlake at a Mouseketeers rally. You would never consult a woman before you buy a stick of deodorant or a Q-tip, but you’re a fool if you don’t ask a woman (preferably a stunning one) for her opinion on a fragrance. After all, it’s her, or women damn-near like her, that you’re trying to attract when you doll yourself up and make yourself smell all purty.—Be Better Guys: BBG - BBG Product Review: Women’s Favorite Men’s Colognes

I can’t argue with that logic. Heck that’s exactly what I did when I settled on Burberry Brit as my favourite cologne. What about the woman who likes, really likes, another scent? A cologne you don’t really care for, but it doesn’t give you a headache or gag, and when she gets close to you she gets that that look in her eyes (no, not the “you forgot to take out the trash look”; run from that one). Would you change? Or maybe just wear it for her on special occasions?

Then there is facial hair. I know lots of women don’t like it. I know lots who do. I have shaved off the face fur on the request of a girlfriend. Of course when I came out of the bathroom post-shave and she laughed, it really wasn’t the reaction I expected. Would you grow or remove facial hair for her?

(Needless to say, my face fur is back, and most likely to stay for a long time.)

I could go on and on about this with several different facets of style. There are the hair cut, clothes, body hair, but it comes down to—where’s your line in the sand?

It comes down to your style

Part of this whole discussion is if you’re trying to woo someone, how much are you willing to bend to get the date? However if she falls for you, then what? Change back? Oh I just did it for you?

Then there is the woman you start a relationship with who then asks to change up your style. Is it that she didn’t like it before or just wanting the best in you to shine?

Honestly, I think a guy’s style is pretty fluid. I don’t wear bow ties or suspenders anymore (thank God). Still use fountain pens. I still dress pretty casual, geek, but I do try for geek chic or geekyfantastic.

Lots of great reasons to update or change your style, and a new relationship is one of them.

But where do you draw the line?

Tags: fashion, Men's style, mens grooming, relationship advice, style

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